Your Warrior Vibe Attracts Your Warrior Tribe
Wow, do I have a story for you guys! As some of you know, I attended a Tony Robbins event a few months ago and was so excited to finally go and meet him (my husband & I purchased a package with a meet and greet - aka a pic with him and shake his hand). The speakers at the event were all middle age-ish men - ZERO women - and of course 4 out the 7 were selling you something.
I'm not going to go over all the details, but since then I have uncovered more about the self-help industry. What I thought was an industry to help people is brimming with scam artists that care more about lining their pockets with your hard-earned cash than actually helping you. The programs they sell turn into more programs to sell you and so on and so on. They prey on people looking for some type change in their life or relief from their suffering by selling them a pipe dream and bullying them into taking massive action to buy their program - now. Don’t ask questions, don’t worry about reviews, just whip out your credit card and everything will be fine and dandy.
To be totally transparent, Tony Robbins himself wasn’t selling anything – he was just the main attraction. He was the reason that pretty much all 7,000 people were there and the main reason that most people purchased these programs. Because people trust him and if he tours with these speakers – they must be good and trustworthy – right? WRONG!
Needless to say, my belief that these people only wanted to help others was shattered. To say I was disappointed would be a MAJOR understatement.
As I was dealing with this realization that the self-help industry needed some serious help of its own coupled with my disgust for the whole process of selling people a pipe dream all while leaving out key truth points and lining their pockets - I stumbled across an article.
This article was written by a woman that happened to be at the same exact Tony Robbins event that I was at and had the same let down that I did. Her name is Sarah.
What happened within the next 30 hours of finding this article was astonishing. I found this woman on a Friday afternoon and she happened to be throwing a Ladies Empowerment Social the very next evening, but tickets were completely sold out and closed. I was bummed because the event looked like an awesome way to connect with other inspiring women.
I reached out to Sarah and told her a little bit about my experience at the Tony Robbins event and subsequent aftermath. After chatting on messenger a little bit, I told her to have an amazing event and to please let me know when she would be throwing another one because I wanted to attend.
You see, I have been actively seeking out strong warrior women for a while now to connect with. Women that have been through hell and back but still stand up and dare to chase their dreams. Women that empower and lift each other up instead of acting like we are in competition with each other. Women who own their hellfire stories as the warriors they are and share them with others to show them "If I can make it through this, gurrrrl, so can you."
Sarah had again reiterated that the event was sold out and that she was sorry, but if she had a last-minute cancellation she would let me know. I wished her well with her event and knew I would be connecting with her in the future.
In the next 24 hours, mom life took over. My little boy had a double ear infection so I ran him to the doctor for meds and then stayed up with him most of the night keeping a close eye on his fever. The next day, feeling exhausted both physically and mentally, I decided to have what I call a "mental health" day. It also worked out that my mama's boy only wants to snuggle in my bed and watch movies with mommy when he's sick - so that's what we did. I also happen to be an over thinker, so as the Iron Giant was playing for the 8,000th time, I was laying there thinking.
Thinking about how I was going to reach out and find these strong warrior women. Thinking about how the self-help industry is getting such a bad rap from people who just get in it for the money. Thinking about how sad it is that these people prey off others that are already suffering and just need a sliver of hope sometimes. I also might have been a slight pity party going on as well.
Then... my phone dinged. It was Sarah. I read the message - and then reread it - and then read it again. She had a last-minute cancellation and wanted to know if I could make it! I could not contain my excitement - I jumped out of bed and ran to my husband to tell him the news. I cancelled my evening plans of staying in bed, smelly and un-showered, snacking and watching HBO movies.
In true mom life hustle, running off 2 hrs of sleep and lookin’ like a hot mess, I whipped myself together in just enough time to haul my booty across town to make this women's event.
Wow. It was an incredible evening of meeting women that are true warriors that have been through hell and back - as reiterated by the host in one of her favorite songs "Started from the bottom - now we here". All the amazing women I met owned their stories, some so similar to mine that it felt like kindred spirits, and they used their battles as fuel to have the courage to change their lives. Most of them busy moms, like myself, that couldn’t remember the last time they dressed up and got to go out with a group of ladies. NO drama - just a positive, elegant evening out with incredibly strong women.
The women speakers at this event stood up and shared their stories of how they came from nothing, shared their personal battles and fully owned their stories to show other women that they are not alone. To show them that anything is possible. That you don’t have to have it all figured out at one time – you just have to have a dream. That – and an unwavering belief that somehow – someway – you will figure it out.
The only other option is to let life beat you down until you submit and abandon your dreams to retreat into the role of a victim. Now, don’t get me wrong – we have all played victim at some point in our lives or another, but staying there is a choice.
Life hands you the battles that you need to teach you the lessons for you to become the strong warrior that you are. Not to push you down, but for you to rise up. For you to use your battles and warrior vibe to attract other warriors that will help lift you up in times when you need it most.
Rise up to your strength and use your warrior story to push forward towards your dream life. If you get stuck, just look back at all the battles that you have made it through in your life. Look at the strength that you have already shown. Look at all that you have overcome. There might have been times when you thought you weren’t going to make it – that this battle might just be the one that kills you. But here you are – a stronger warrior than before.
“When you look back at all the battles that you have been through and come out the other side – you truly can be amazed by your own strength. You are a WARRIOR.” – Renea Paulsen
You are Strong | You are Worthy | You are a Warrior
Life is What You Choose