Please and Thank You?
Rarely do I write a ranty post, but I have to bring this up because it keeps popping up. That and I’ve been people watching lately (one of my favorite things to do in public). One of the things that I have noticed is that most people have forgotten how to look at someone in the eye when they are helping them and use basic manners like please, thank you and you’re welcome.
I am definitely a manners person and would never want to feel or seem ungrateful for anyone. I believe in saying please and thank you, especially to someone helping or waiting on me. I have also been a stickler to push this onto my children - which I have actually had people (usually the older generation) stop me in public to say how much they appreciate that I am teaching my children to use manners.
Are my children perfect and remember like the little cherub angels they are to use their manners every single time? NO. You would think that since I have been teaching it since they were babies (including teaching them the baby sign language for these phrases) that they would BUT NO - of course they are kids and they like to test and push boundaries and forget and make me remind them every two seconds, but I digress. I cut them a little slack because they are kids, but I don’t give in on this battle.
In today’s society, by teaching kids to look at someone in the eye when they are speaking to them and have basic manners, this is giving them a crucial life skill. Technology nowadays has everyone staring down looking at their phones - refusing to make eye contact and staying in their own social media world.
Go into any Chipotle nowadays and you will find that people are looking down at their phones or even anywhere else than to look at that person in the eye - and they don’t say please or thank you. So by teaching your kids the basic skills of eye contact, confidence when speaking and basic manners to let someone know you appreciated them - you are giving them the upper edge on the rest of the younger generation.
I don’t know where in society it has became the norm to not use manners, to say please and thank you to even the people delivering your food, but we should definitely bring this trend back. It lets the other person know that you appreciated them and even something so small can mean so much to another person.
We never know the impact that we could have on another person by acknowledging them. Just by telling someone that you were grateful or appreciated them with a simple thank you while looking them in the eyes is so powerful. If we don’t teach our kids and lead by example - how will they ever know?