With the horrific events on 10/1/2017 of the Las Vegas Mass Shooting - the topic of how to get through trauma in life has been brought up. My heart sincerely goes out to all the victims, survivors and families of those affected by this horrible tragedy. Whether you lost someone, you survived or you were a first responder this event is sure to impact you for the rest of your life.
Going through trauma or loss in life is never easy. There is no short cut or quick path to the finish - you just have to go through at your own pace. When I went through trauma in my life, I found that I tried to go it alone. See, most of us think we should be able to handle, in some capacity, our own problems - except when you feel you have to go through it alone, it can make the situation much worse.
The biggest message that I have for those affected by trauma is that you are not alone and you don’t have to go through it alone. Here are some great starting steps on the road to dealing with trauma and loss in life
1. Give yourself time - Be patient with yourself and the emotional process that you are going through. Don’t expect yourself to “snap” out of it and be back to normal everyday business within a week. It’s ok to feel sad, lost, depressed, angry and even scared when first starting to work on healing after trauma. You are allowed to feel how you feel - but deal with those feelings instead of just shove them down and pretend they don’t exist.
2. REACH OUT - In my opinion, this is where we all struggle. We don’t reach out to others because we don’t want to burden them with our problems or listen to others try to “fix” it. Please, when you are struggling reach out. Reach out to someone and explain that maybe you just need someone to listen to you cry and not try to “fix” anything. Mental health is such a weak point in today’s society and I feel it’s because we all try to figure it out ourselves instead of reaching out for help during battles in life (I have done the same many times, so I’m calling myself out too). I repeat - please REACH OUT TO SOMEONE.
3. Unplug - If it’s something as horrible as the national news of the Las Vegas shooting or even that a close family member or friend passed away - unplug. If you are on Facebook stalking every last word and picture that was posted - time to put the phone down slowly and walk away. Unplug. Even better - unplug and GO OUTSIDE (if you can). Nature is a natural healer and whenever I’m starting to feel emotionally overwhelmed - I head straight outside (whether I actually feel like it at the time or not). It’s great for your mental and emotional health and can help bring clarity to your feelings and thoughts.
4. Get involved with something you love or are passionate about - Not right away - after you’ve given yourself some time, you’ve reached out and you have unplugged and are on the path to starting to heal - get involved. Start getting involved and doing the things that you love or that you are passionate about. You might find with your journey of healing that new passions about your trauma and experience might arise. Follow that lead of doing things that make you feel good and get you up and involved back in life again.
As always, with any trauma or loss, my heart is with you during this battle. Please be patient and kind to yourself while going through the journey of healing. You are an incredibly strong warrior, please remember to reach out to someone you love, you are not alone and you don’t have to go through this alone.
P.S. For victims, survivors and family of those directly affected by the Las Vegas shooting on 10/1/2017 - I offer my coaching services for FREE - you can email me directly or join this private online community for FREE support and help on how to piece your life back together. My thoughts, love and prayers are with you all. https://www.facebook.com/groups/272797233231007/