Don’t Give In
Fear is the #1 reason that people don’t take action towards their goals. Fear of change, fear of failure, fear of stepping out of your comfort zone. And for some reason, we all think that our fear is legitimate – looking for the validation that we need to prove to ourselves that we shouldn’t even try.
Except that everyone deals with fear. I remember when I was starting out and looking for my own mentor/coach I was terrified. I feared failure, stepping out of my comfort zone and my own self-doubt. Then I found a coach and as I was going through her content – she had written pieces about feeling the same way, even as recent as that day.
It took me back – how could this successful, well known business coach still have fear? Not only did this make me realize that fear is something that can be overcome, but that everyone is dealing with it. Yes – even the really successful people that we put up on a pedestal.
Thinking to myself, like – how could those people be afraid of failing – they are so successful!
I was reading an article the other day about Chelsea Handler – very successful, outspoken, strong woman – and she was talking about her own fear. Most people would be surprised that she has fear, since this is a woman that pretty much just says what she thinks and is totally unapologetic about it. Yet, she deals with fear just like everyone else. What’s the difference? She makes a choice to push past it instead of give in.
Giving in to the fear is what will keep you stuck in the same situation that you are in. The only way to change that is to look your fear in the eye and push past it anyway. You could be shaking in your boots, with your stomach feeling like it is going to fall out of your booty, but to get to where you want to go – you must make the choice to push past that fear.
As a mom of 2, I can tell you that I use my kids as fuel to push past my own fears. I want them to chase their dreams and am constantly telling them that they can be and do anything that they want. However, for them to believe that they can do anything they dream of and actually do it – they will eventually have to push past their own fears. So, I must to set the example for them. I can talk a good game all I want to them, but kids are smart – they will watch what you do, not what you say.
Am I telling you that everything will turn out sunshine and rainbows on the other side – not always, but eventually if you continue to push past your fear and you don’t give in – you will succeed. Not in the one choice to face your fear, but the many choices that you make to not give in to your fear and push forward anyway.
Fear is a nasty mind trick that your brain can play on you based off “what ifs”.
What if I fail.
What if I can’t do it.
What if people judge me.
What if people criticize me.
What if I’m not good enough.
What if I’m not worthy enough.
Instead of giving in to fear – switch around your “what ifs”.
What if I succeed.
What if I can do it.
What if people love it.
What if I am good enough.
What if I am worthy enough.
I already know that you are worthy enough, but that’s not enough. You have to know it and believe it too in order to have the courage to face your fears. I understand having fear and it is completely normal to have those fears – everyone does. It’s how you push past them, over and over again. Take them in baby steps, but always push forward – like the warrior that you are.
Life is What You Choose