Pushing Past Insecurity Sucks - But It’s Worth It.
If you saw my video, Top 4 Ways You Could Be Holding Yourself Back in Life, you might have caught what insecurity of mine is/was that held me back in life. If not, you can check out the replay here. I put it in the past and present tense because it’s something that I still struggle with and have to continue to remind myself even now, not to freak out about.
What am I talking about? Acne. Yup, adult acne. I got acne as soon as I hit puberty (around age 12) with lovely pimples up on my forehead. Ok, I thought - I will just get big bangs to cover it up. I heard from everyone that once I was done with puberty, my acne would be a thing of the past and I would have to stress out about a new pimple breaking out every damn day of my life in middle school and high school. I wanted to hide - and I never left the house without coverup.
What If We Changed One Word?
What word am I talking about changing? Suffering.
The more I hear this word when it comes to suffering from depression and anxiety I keep asking myself the same question. What if we changed that word suffering to struggling?
The actual definition of suffering is a state of undergoing pain, distress or hardship. For me, when I hear the word suffering it feels almost like someone or something doing something to you and there is nothing that you can do about it. Something you have no control over.
Is Your Brain Keeping You Stuck?
We have all heard the old saying - “You are your own worst enemy.” So much of this rings true, but today I want to talk about the biggest thing that is keeping you stuck - your very own brain.
Yup, that’s right. Your brain is part of what is keeping you from moving towards the goals and dreams that you want to achieve.
Wait…WHAT?! I know - crazy right. First, I’m going to explain how to tell if your brain is doing this and why - then I’m going to give you some tools that you can use to take back the control over your tricky trickster of a brain.
Drop the Guilt Trip
I was doing a video a while back talking about how moms can suffer from mom guilt anytime you want/need to have alone time. Ya know, when you need to leave the house and be by yourself for your own sanity. Or maybe it’s getting dressed up and going out with a group of friends for the evening. Moms can tend to feel guilty for wanting to do things for themselves, thinking that this makes them selfish in some way. Then, those thoughts can lead back to asking yourself “Does this make me a bad mom?”
Hold up woman – take a breath. Now, I know that you have probably heard the safety instructions when you fly on an airplane. I especially love the one about the oxygen mask – first put the mask on yourself before you help others – even children. Makes sense, right? I mean, if you are passed out from the lack of oxygen are you going to be able to help anyone else? NO.
You are a Warrior
A wise woman once told me there are times in life that you have the chance to get a helicopter viewpoint of what other people are going through - the back story if you will. Sometimes, we can be so blinded by what we have going on in our own lives that we become too busy to take the helicopter viewpoint. I have definitely had my share of battles, times when things have been, what I lovingly refer to as crazy bananas and shit just continues to hit the fan. But every now and then, I get a helicopter view of all the other warriors around me and the battles that they are fighting.
Every single woman that I know is a warrior - she may not always feel the strongest, the brightest or the most put together - but never the less - she is a warrior. Likewise, every woman has gone through her share of battles - anything from heartache, tremendous loss, trauma, serious health conditions, rape, molestation, depression, anxiety, motherhood, worry, divorce, addiction, overwhelm and not feeling good enough. The list could go on and on with all the battles that these warriors are fighting, inside as well as out.